Part of the confusion for a victim is that there are three ways to get help, but each of the alternatives may be only available depending on the facts of the incident(s) and the relationship of the alleged violator to the victim. The first alternative is a domestic violence no contact order issued by a judge as part of a domestic violence criminal proceeding. If you are a victim of a domestic violence crime (assault, threats, malicious mischief, etc.) you first should request assistance of law enforcement and have the crime charged and a no contact order entered by the judge as part of the criminal proceeding. The second alternative is a domestic violence protection order which is available even though a crime is not charged. This is the required alternative when the alleged violator is a spouse, former spouse, an adult person related by blood or marriage, persons residing together, persons with a prior dating relationship, persons who have a biological or legal parent-child relationship, and persons who have a child in common whether or not they have been married or lived together. The third alternative is a civil anti-harassment protection order. This alternative is only available when the incident(s) are not domestic violence acts. Unlawful harassment is a knowing and willful course of conduct directed at a specific person which seriously alarms, annoys, or harasses such person, and which serves no legitimate lawful purpose. In order to be eligible for such a protection order, there must be repeated invasions of a person's privacy by acts and words showing a continuous pattern of harassment. Isolated single acts of harassment will not qualify a person for an anti-harassment protection order.